What is hope?
A lot of times we find ourselves at junctions. Junctions in the form of problem or confusions, from here we have two options; either to move forward with our decisions or to stop evaluate and sometimes just to stop it all together.
Recently I read about a girl from Bangalore who committed suicide after she searched Guru Google for more than two hours for ways to commit suicide. She was looking for ways to end her life as fast as possible. Google helped her find a way. I hear she had a good degree and was starting out as an entrepreneur in which she failed in the first attempt and her family failed to support her because she left a good paying job to follow her heart. Not going to blame anyone in this case, why should I? Just a bystander, who knew nothing. But we all heard about this case and there are a few take outs from this incidents, I am just going to talk about the first few thoughts that came to my mind when I heard about this shameful incident.
What is the reason for her death?? Discouraging family or relatives? Seeing her friend move ahead in life and she had just seen her first failure in the business world? Did she feel alone because she had no one to talk to about what she actually felt? Why did the family fail to support her? Did she think she was a better off dead? She had a good job which she left to do something she thought she was good at and maybe she failed but she could have gotten another job sometimes because she had experience and she had the courage to do something. I wonder.. No one can tell what truly happened in her mind.
So many kids die every year because they don’t get good grades or jobs, doesn’t it sadden you?
Dear families out there, this is a different generation. Don’t worry, your kid might not become Bill Gates or Mark Zuckerberg (as in a wealthy person – not the brains) but they’d be alive and doing something instead of being ashes and dirt. Don’t try to kill their dreams before they can sprout and begin to breathe. A few failures in life are more than necessary to find our feet and strengthen our roots. Can we do things in a different way? How about a little bit of encouragement??
Discouragement is a necessary evil, use it with caution.
I have failed in a bucket full of cases all my life, my family scolds me all the time, sometimes I chargeback saying why can’t you just encourage me? But maybe this is just how families see our failures – our milestones in their eyes. Doesn’t matter if they can’t understand right now, someday they will, but only if you do something worth it. Youngsters, let’s give our families reasons to believe in our crazy adventures. Shall we?
We are all mad people, we are so busy staying busy that we find it hard to take a breath, step back and relax. We are our own solutions to the madness within us. Our purposes in life differs a lot according to our needs and want but when it comes down to actually doing something and finding solutions to our problems we feel stuck and just wish that someone could magically solve it for us. We spend a lot of time thinking about the good on other’s plate and the bad on our own, we get disappointed, discouraged and unhappy, sooner or later we learn to live with it instead of seeing it through.
“When you are going through hell, keep going.” – Winston Churchill
We fight wars daily. Wars to keep our sanity and stay happy, wars with ourselves and others, wars to be accepted in the normal world. Our struggles make us stronger. Sometimes you just have to forget that there are places made of anything stronger than you, your metal is stronger than any other metal in this universe. There’s something inside of you that they can never touch, never ever. That’s hope.
We are gifts to our own selves. We are the unwrapped gifts that we forgot to open and thought are worthless or not-so-important. But you know what? Just be that person who encourages you and gives you the wings to fly and the roots to return to. Stop waiting for someone to come and rescue you. If you wish something were to be different in the world, do it, and make that difference yourself. Wishing is a waste of time just is it, be the person you want to see in the mirror. Junctions as I said in the beginning, junctions have many diversions, remember that.
After I wrote all this, now I am thinking about that banker from The Shawshank Redemption, who said, “Hope is a good thing. Maybe the best of things and no good things ever die.”
What is hope?
Answer is, We are. You are.
You are hope. Get busy living, or get busy dying.