Perfect Strangers. So Close Yet Too Far Apart.

Perfect strangers so close yet too far apart

This article will reach all kind of people, the perfect strangers that I write about. People from different ethnicity and religion, different cultures and age groups will be reading this post. Most of us will never meet each other personally nor would we talk for more than a few times if not at all. Yet, by reading each other’s written words or pictures we converse.

We convey to each other our heart’s desires and our deepest troubles yet we feel misunderstood and unhappy. Most of us will never know what the person living next to us wants the most or fears the most, we won’t know a lot of things about someone who lives right next to us leave alone someone who lives a thousand miles away.

Yet by crossing this initial barrier of ignorance and invisibility, by acknowledging that someone out there is going to read my post, just imagining about that makes me feel the presence of another human being. Just like me, sitting there, reading…

There are too many of us and we are all too far apart.Β 

So true Kurt Vonnegut.

I say this because I feel that we have become immune to everything else but ourselves. Every tragedy, bad news, social issues sounds fake somehow. The person walking two steps from us seems like a perfect stranger, we hardly even recognize that person as a human being. Our power of empathy seems to be taken away from usΒ because there’s just too many of us… Too many to count.

Reason for being unreachable? Invisible walls. There’s so much we want to say, so much we want to gain, our pain, our desires, our feelings, our regrets… All about us… all of it. We have no time for others pain, suffering, feelings, desires etc. Happily, the greatest distance between two people can be merged with time and communication… BUT… We don’t communicate much nowadays. Rarely do we find time for another. Perhaps one day, we will be declaring “BUSY” as the most glorified word of the 20th century.

Today, the wonders of IT industry, it’s glorified children blogs, social media, videos, podcasts and many more things keep us busy and entertained. Keeps us from feeling lonely in an easy way. Are this kind of interactions enough to keep us happy? Does it give one satisfaction like a real life conversation? There are so many fake profiles everywhere, it’s difficult to recognize a genuine person now. We no longer believe in building meaningful relationships with others. We are so together but so alone. At the end of the day, a virtual hug can never replace a hug by someone who truly cares for you.

It’s so easy to get everything ready, prompt delivery, one click away that we no longer care. Drive to liven a relationship, try to have fun, try to make it work and be truly there, are not sought after traits now. Even marriage, divorce, making babies and giving them away is so easy now. The point isn’t about having everything easy, it’s about trying, doing.

New websites pop up every day, everything is one click away. Even a human being. We want things to be perfect, perfect childhood, perfect love, perfect marriage, perfect stories and perfect ends. Seldom, we find ourselves working for it. Instead, the pursuit of happiness takes almost all our lifetime.

It’s not because we are unable to do so. Physical distances mean nothing. It’s about emotional distances, the distance between our souls.Β 

Ray Bradbury Fahrenheit 451 Perfect strangers

We have been hurt so much by so many people we trusted that we are now unwilling to trust people, unwilling to let new people in. Give a chance, to yourself and to the new person, despite having been in hurt’s way once upon a time. If we give ourselves a chance, maybe someday, our story can start with those same words…

ONCE UPON A TIME… Two perfect strangers met and this is their story….

Let me use a famous line, “United We stand. Divided we fall.” πŸ™‚ Chances and choices take us to a whole new world that we often dream of.

If you like this article, check out… I don’t want meaningless conversations, please.Β 

48 thoughts on “Perfect Strangers. So Close Yet Too Far Apart.

  1. Don’t you just hate it when you get into an elevator and all the occupants are staring at their iphone screens, nobody looks up to greet. I usually creep in very quietly and start reading the messages on the screen of the person next to me – the reaction is priceless and a very good icebreaker.

    1. WOW… that is one hell of an idea. Although I don’t get such chances but I will surely try this the next time I am in one such situation. Thanks for the idea dear ;).

  2. Despite the Internet causing some people to become withdrawn and insular, it has also opened up this planet to communication like nothing else before. Through the medium of blogging, we are able to converse and share thoughts and opinions in a way unimaginable in my youth.
    Thanks for following my blog. It is much appreciated.
    Best wishes from England. Pete.

    1. yes I agree, we wouldn’t be communicating if these systems did not exist. My focus in this post was more on the daily aspect of regular communication with people around us.

      Thanks for the comment Pete. Have a wonderful day πŸ™‚

  3. Technology is lovely and has given us a lot of positive things yet, we have also become so immersed in it that real life seems almost untenable these days. I took a bus this afternoon to town and literally everyone on the bus had earplugs on, listening to one thing or the other. It’s kinda sad.

  4. I always think that one of the greatest achievements of technology is the way we communicate today. The world has become a smaller place and strangers are becoming friends. But, somewhere, we are missing the touch, the touch of true feeling and emotions. Maybe, someday, technology would have been able to invent something…maybe…the lacuna between the real and virtual would be fulfilled. I have the faith and positivism. I like to trust people even when they are strangers, but I use my own reasoning and logic before following their advice.

    Hope you won’t mind the above rant inspired by your writing πŸ˜€ Just couldn’t help to write down my thoughts… πŸ™‚

    1. I think in the future technology will be able to show us many new horizons but emotions? I doubt it very much. Although I do the same as you, before following someone’s advice I reason it out but it still hurts when I find out that the person isn’t what they played to be. On that note, I followed your advice and read Keigo Hagashino’s novel, LOVED IT! Review coming up soon. Thanks for recommending this gem of a writer to me.

      Thanks for this wonderful comment. πŸ™‚ Have a wonderful day dear πŸ™‚

        1. Seriously I wish that was an option. I don’t come online for days sometimes and miss all the posts then I slowly go through my e-mails to read them again and it keeps piling up. So much to read, so little time? hehe

          Thanks for dropping by dear. Hows Diwali preps going?

  5. A timely post Hemangini. Well said and true. How different this world than say the world of only fifty years ago. I can’t lie, there are many things about this current world that I love, I mean it. I absolutely enjoy doing this…talking to someone about–well our current crazy situation. But, I agree there has been a terrible price to pay. I feel closer to you and my other blogger friends than I do to my neighbors who pretty keep to themselves. We got a piece of mail the other day intended for our neighbor to the right of us. My wife noticed their last name and said, “Oh, that’s their last name.” They moved in two years ago, and neither one of us knew our neighbors’ last name. Sigh.

    Still, I realize that I can write what I want to write. I can read books. I can walk my black lab every morning. I can drive from one state to the other without fear of being stopped by gun-toting men. I can cook out on Saturdays and have a beer.

    And when I took the misplaced letter to my neighbor, he and I got to talking, and we talked about his recent knee operation and the weather and mowing grass, and when I left, I said, “See ya later, Bill.” And he said. “You take care Paul, and thanks!”

    I don’t care if he knows my last name or not. We get along. We just have to keep trying. What other choice is there?

    Thank you so much Hemangini. Thank you.

    1. Wow, thanks for this wonderful comment Paul. I am glad you got to know Bill. Next time you see him how about you tell him your blogger buddy said, “hi!” hehe and I hope he gets to know your last name too. πŸ™‚
      In India it is a lot different we know each other and butt-in in each other’s business at times, get jealous and stuff but losing friends, lovers etc happens to us all, no matter where we live. Families part because of small quarrels, better jobs, money, properties all get in the way ‘cuz we can’t help our thought process. I hope to make that better with this words of mine. πŸ™‚

      Thanks again for this wonderful comment.
      Have lots of fun and take care Paul.

          1. oh okay.. I usually write in one go or don’t touch the idea again till too late so I stick to writing in one go. I wish I had the capacity to keep writing something after leaving it for few days. Maybe that’s why I am unable to write my novel. :/ Wish you all the best Hardik πŸ™‚ Write well. I am waiting to read your next story.

            By the way, Happy DhanTeras to you πŸ™‚

  6. so true, hema! a very relevant & thought provoking post. liked your take on Physical & emotional distances! as you righly put across, the distance is perhaps because of the lack of trust that prevails.hopefully, things will turn out better..cheers

  7. We have become a nameless society. We still might smile as we pass a stranger but odds are we or that stranger is looking down at a cell phone. Letters are no longer written by hand. They are typed on a computer. A click and it is spit out of a printer and ready to send.
    Children don’t know nursery rhymes or how to play games in the yard. They know how to set up a game on the computer. They don’t know how to use an encyclopedia. They know how to Google.
    Yes, there are too many of us and we have become nameless. Some people live in neighborhoods and never meet their neighbors. We find dates online. We shop online. We talk online. We keep up with each other on Facebook.
    You’re right. We are perfect strangers….so close yet too far apart.

    1. I miss the handwritten letters. Not that I received many but I loved receiving handwritten cards on festivals and birthdays. Letters are the love affair of my life, I still write to people & it’s as thrilling as its ever been.
      I agree with every word you said, I wonder if my niece will play the games I played as a child, heck I want my niece and my future kids to play all of those. It was so much fun to get dirty and not care at all. Now even parents want their children play on tv/cells rather than outside. Nursery rhymes are still on but no more regional language, all English/Mandarian/Spanish… Sucks!
      I feel sad reading the last part of your comment. We don’t know our neighbours and we do most things online. :/ Close yet far apart.

      Thank you for this wonderful comment πŸ™‚ I appreciate it.
      Have a wonderful day.

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